Is That Normal?

Ever had a bad day? Welcome to the human race.  Everyone has days or seasons that are a struggle.  You know the reasons – money, family, school, health…… I have had a full summer.  Lots of joy and family but also some struggles.  I’ve been out of my usual Oola rhythm for a few weeks.

Over 20 years ago my husband was seriously injured in July with a long stay in the hospital.  I went to see my principal as the school year was about to start and she asked if I needed to go on leave but I said no.  Teaching would be the one thing that might feel normal. It was the right decision.  Paul went back to work in November too, even though he was on desk duty for a while because he needed some normal too.

Yesterday I decided to turn off the iPad (too much wasted time on junk) and get back to normal.  I took a few pieces of fabric from my stash to my favorite quilt shop and bought fabric to make a quilted wall hanging. It was great working with Becky to mix and match just the right fabrics.  I started cutting almost as soon as I got home.  I realized I was doing something I love to do that feels normal.  😍

Life is full of highs and lows.  Sometimes normal feels just right.  I encourage you to find what’s normal for you went life gets a little tough.



We have also had a big life change in the last couple of weeks.  Our oldest daughter moved out of our home and into a dorm.  The house is a bit quieter and everyone is now in bed at a reasonable time.  It feels strange, and I haven’t been able to get used to this new “normal,” it’s thrown me for a loop.

When life is rough I think it is important to focus on taking care of yourself!  I usually need time to myself to clear my head.  I like to take myself out to lunch and just enjoy the quiet of it all.  Sometimes it’s a pedicure with a book so they leave me alone.  Whatever it is for you, make sure you take the time for yourself.  Mental health is just as important as physical health.  If you aren’t in a good place mentally you can’t give your best to others.  Obviously, no one has it together all the time which is why I urge you to find something that you can do that is just for you and your happiness.

Hope you are all well!!



Gratitude has popped up twice this year in a big way.  After I read Oola by Dave Braun and Troy Amdahl, I started trying to write down one thing I was grateful for each day.  I tried to be specific and it had to be different every day.  At the Young Living convention Shawn Achor talked about happiness.  I followed up by reading his book The Happiness Advantage.  One of his strategies to improve happiness is to write 3 things you are grateful for each day.  I started writing at least one grateful statement on March 17th. I’ll admit that I have missed a few days but that’s usually because I’m busy with family and friends.  I’ve been doing it long enough now that I can tell when I miss.  I think about it but writing it down makes a difference.


Some of the things I have written:

* I’m grateful that (friend’s name) is in a happy place with her new home.

* Grateful for a great place for sewing.  I don’t have to clean up when I stop for the day.

* Grateful that I get to be in the bell choir at my church.  It’s fun.

* Grateful for my hairdresser.  She gets me and I trust her.

* Grateful that people like to visit and hang out at my house.

Ok.  That’s enough.  Well, one more- so grateful that I have spent the last 6 weeks surrounded by family.  It included trips to Utah and Colorado, special time with both my children and their spouses and all of the grandkids have had special time (without parents) at our house.  Life is good.


Here comes the challenge for you.  Find something to be grateful for every day.  It is not that easy to write something different every day.  My examples may seem trivial but it’s often the simple things that matter.  I am often grateful for family but it needs to be different and specific.

Give it a try for two weeks and leave me a comment about how it went. Most people that I’ve talked to about this think they are pretty happy.   But who doesn’t want to be a little happier?